You’re engaged! Now what do you do?

First off congratulations!

Being engaged can be super exciting but overwhelming at the same time. The first thing you need to do is set a date or at least a month, as this will help you narrow down all the other possibilities! So okay, you’ve chosen a date but now what? Your family is giving you a list of things to do, Instagram and Pinterest are giving you a list of things to do! Pretty soon you’re feeling overwhelmed and unsure of how to prioritize and truly maximize your time.

This is how a wedding planner could come in handy, but perhaps you can’t quite fit one into your budget or maybe you enjoy the planning process . Either way, TrueMateWeddings has a list of time sensitive duties that would best be done sooner than later. Here they are;

1. Call your parents and close friends/family and send out save the dates!

This is especially handy if most of your family live far away, this way they can start planning ahead and making arrangements for travel, etc. Even if you don’t have an exact date, it’s a good idea to let people know as many details as possible in advance.

2. Draft a guest list.

One of the most stressful things to do during wedding planning.  Here at TrueMateWeddings suggest you write down an A-list (people you MUST have at your wedding). Then write down a B-list (people who you would LIKE to have at your wedding). This helps you to choose a venue as you would need a rough idea as to how many guests would be attending. Never under any circumstances let anyone on your B-list know that they don’t fit into the “MUST invite” category. Chances are they already know this…depending on the relationship, but it would still be in poor taste.

3. Create a budget!

When creating your wedding budget you really want to think about which areas of the wedding are a priority to you. Are you more concerned about guest enjoyment than you are about the aesthetics? Then perhaps you’d want to invest more into hiring a stellar DJ and selecting a menu that’s sure to wow their taste buds! On the other hand, if you’re someone who really enjoys wowing your guests with extravagant decor and wearing a top designer gown, then you could spend less on the DJ and buy those beautiful flower arrangements that cascade down from the ceiling! It’s your BIG day so you decide on what’s important, keeping in mind that there are industry standards for pricing and you do get what you pay for! Also, do your research so you know what the average photographer, DJ, etc cost!

4. Find your venue!

This is usually the first thing a couple does before hiring other vendors, so if you’re choosing a popular venue and getting married between the months of May- October, chances are they don’t have many dates left! Some couples will book 2 years in advance to secure their favourite venue.

5. Now that you’ve got your venue, you have a bit of time to relax, unless you’re trying to plan everything in less than a year! The next item on your to do list —we definitely recommend creating a checklist to help you keep track of the important tasks you need to do — would be to book in your photographer, videographer and DJ. These vendors can only service one wedding in a day and are in high demand. Having a quality DJ can make or break the party and overall guest experience, and who doesn’t want beautiful photos to look back on? Videos also add a nice touch when it comes to reliving the experience and the joy of your special day!

6. Write down all the details around your vision!

Start putting together a wedding board with ideas on what you want your wedding to look like. This step is easier when you know your budget, so you’re not putting down ideas that would surpass your budget.

7. Once you have made decisions on the style of your wedding, you can start looking into hiring your other vendors such as; the florist, decorator, cake baker and hair/make-up artist (s). Make sure to book in your officiant as well!

8. Remember to enjoy it!

Sometimes I see couples get so caught up in the planning; choosing vendors, managing their budget, navigating difficult conversations with family/friends , planning the different pre-wedding events, that they start treating it like a second job, and not a fun one at that! The last thing you want to do is to burn yourself out before your Big Day, so take some deep breathes, schedule time to just relax and remember at the end of the day, you’re marrying the one person you want to spend forever with!

Now that we’ve given you a summary of the next steps to take, we hope you’re feeling a little less overwhelmed, but if not always feel free to contact us with any questions or to book in a Free meeting!

We love helping couples and Coffee and sweet treats are always on us!

Happy planning,




Photography by : Liza Litvinovich

Bridal Shows- Top 4 Questions to Ask& Tips

“To go, or not to go; That is the question ?

 Here at Truemateweddings we HIGHLY recommend you attend at least one bridal show.  This is a great opportunity to speak with various vendors face to face. This allows you to meet all the potential vendors that could help make your wedding day a relaxing and memorable experience for you! It also gives you a chance to get tips, and get answers to questions you might not have gotten otherwise.

Thanks to the bridal shows hosted all over the GTA, it makes attending and securing a top vendor easier than ever! 

Truemateweddings will be at attending a few bridal shows this year. Last weekend we participated in the Niagara Wedding Show, which was awesome and this weekend we will be participating in the Hamilton Show. Also, we will be apart if the first ever Peel Bridal Show! This is a good chance for you to meet us and gain some insight as to whether we would be the best fit for your wedding!

 When approaching a vendor it may be intimidating at first so we here at Truemateweddings have the top 4 questions you should be asking each vendor. 

1.) How long have you been in business ?

2.) How many clients do you take on per day?

3.) Will you be the one I deal with on the day of my wedding?

4.) What’s your price list? 

These are the top 4 questions we believe will help you get a good understanding if you want to proceed with a vendor.  If it’s a photographer, DJ or photographer you also want to ask if they own their own equipment!

Bridal shows can be both overwhelming and fun! It’s a great opportunity to bring all the ladies together, or do something fun with just your mother and maid of honour! There will also be many opportunities to win great prizes , take photos and grab some goody bags !

Tips to be more prepared:

1.) Bring people who you know help to keep you grounded, and genuinely want to help you with your wedding plans.

2.) Carry sticky labels with your names, email, phone number and wedding date. It is optional to add your mailing address.

3.) Prepare questions that you’d like to ask each vendor in order to maximize the value received from the show.

4.) Come in the mood for snacking so you can enjoy all the tasty treats and samples!

Bridal shows are fun and helpful especially if you come prepared! So go on and attend, you have nothing to lose!

Yours Truly,


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